Me too

Me too.

Two words that seem so small and yet, somehow, are opening the dialogue to something long hidden.

I’ve stayed away from the phrase when I’ve seen it on Facebook and Twitter. Like many women, I have a story. I have moments that I cringe when I think about them. I have times where I wonder why I kept my mouth shut.

I am also lucky that I had people in my life who believed me- who helped me- who counseled me.

I never felt like I was alone.

But I can say, with absolute certainty.

Me too.

As a high school teacher, this topic has come up more than once. Talking about sexuality and consent is an important part of education for all students, and even though it may not be directly tied to my curriculum, discussions begin and inevitably head towards the news.

And this is news.

So my idea of staying out of this became increasingly difficult today and at the end of class, a few students were hanging around my desk, talking about ‘me too’.

One looked at another and said, fairly loudly, “It’s happened to Miss Nadler.”

I asked her why she said that or more importantly, why she thought that- I have never spoken about any such matter in my class.

“You write about rape and you said writing is observation. Writers write about what happens to them.”

Now I never share my actual novels with my students, but they know what I write about. They know the themes. I’ve been interviewed in local papers and I’m very happy to talk about what I love about writing.

They can also look up anything regarding my books on the Internet and see it, too.

On the one hand, I was thrilled she actually remembered something I said during a lecture, but I was quick to correct her.

“Writers observe the human experience. We write the things that are hard to say. We write about life all around us, not just what happens to us.”

“Oh.”

We spoke a little longer and after they left, I sat there and thought about things.

I don’t write about rape.

I write about survival. I write about the courage and honor it takes to pick yourself up and move forward after the unthinkable- whatever that might be.

I write about love and hope and resilience.

I also write men who believe and honor women.

That’s what I observe.

I began to think about the feedback I’ve received over the content of the books. It’s not just Brittany and her horrific attack, but Desi too.

I lost readers when I put Desi through such trauma. I knew that was a possibility before I wrote it and I did it anyway because it was important for me to show what is real.

Brittany’s assault was far more orchestrated, but Desi’s was more ‘real’.

It happens.

Look at the amount of ‘me too’ posts all around if you need verification.

Let it anger you and frustrate you and maybe, just maybe, we can change behaviors.

I’ll never forget one of my first years of teaching and a parent cornered me at curriculum night and complimented my red hair. He then asked if my hair was red all over. He also sneered and asked if I had a ‘red breast’ because my name is Robin.

I remember being stunned and not saying anything.

I removed myself from the situation and continued on with my night.

I also remember telling my dad what happened a while after because parent teacher conferences were coming up and I was concerned about having to meet him face to face.

My dad offered to come to conferences and sit with me.

He also offered to do more, but that’s not really the point.

God I miss him.

I guess maybe the best thing we can all do is tell our stories. I can teach my students that they are in a safe place. I can encourage them to speak up.

I can listen.

I can believe.

It’s a start.

 

Coming soon

Hi everyone

I am so sorry I’ve been so quiet- especially during a new release. Some things have been going on in my life that have pulled me away, but I am working on getting back to posting soon. I have a few important updates to post about the series and my future plans.

I’ll be back soon!

By the way- I hope you are enjoying “Choices”

Get ready!

Choices.

We all have them. In every situation, we choose how we react. Even in terrible situations, we all have the choice in how we live.

Sometimes, both choices are bad, but still, we have the right to choose.

Book 25 is about choices.

The good, bad and ugly.

I have left something sort of hanging in the background for too long and in this book, it comes to a head.

Jimmy.

He went through something horrific when Rebecca hit him with her car and although he had loving parents who raised him, something happened during that time.

Something he could never reconcile.

When you look for answers, sometimes things are better left buried.

He wasn’t prepared for what he found and he wasn’t mature enough to handle things.

His actions after Rachel was killed and his father was hurt led to a standoff that would change everyone’s life.

This preview is a small look into what happened and how Jimmy’s choices lead to the most difficult chapter of Mike and Jade’s marriage.

Sometimes, when you have choices, it’s hard not to make the wrong one.

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“You understand why we called you?” the detective asked Mike and Bill after they got to the hospital.

“Yeah,” Bill said, looking at Mike who was quiet.

“Where is he?” Bill asked.

“In the conference room.”

Mike walked to the conference room and Bill waited.

“Which room is she in?”

“Down the hall on the right.”

Bill nodded and went to the room.

Mike opened the door and saw Jimmy sitting there. He sighed and went to the table.

“What happened?” he asked as he sat down.

“Why did they call you? I told them not to.”

“What happened?” Mike repeated.

Jimmy looked at him.

“Have you ever wondered how your life got so messed up? Why you live with the circumstances you do? Why you’re so filled with anger and hate?”

Mike waited.

“What if there was someone who could answer that? Someone who was the reason you were so fucked up? Wouldn’t you want to do anything to figure it out?”

“What did you do?”

“She wouldn’t answer me. She wouldn’t tell me why she hated me. She just sat there, spewing crap about me and telling me that I was just like her.”

Mike tried to remain calm.

“What did you do?”

Jimmy stared at him.

“I tried to kill her, just like she tried to kill me.”

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Bill walked into the room and saw Rebecca laying there, her wrist cuffed to the bedrail, the machines beeping as she breathed.  She looked at him and smiled.

“Michael wouldn’t even come, huh? Had to send his clean up boy?”

Bill smiled.

“He’s here.”

Rebecca’s face brightened.

“Well, then I must really be in trouble. The doctor did say I should be okay, but one never knows, huh?”

Bill stood there and didn’t say anything.

“So what’s the plan? Why are you here? What do you want?” Rebecca asked.

He didn’t say anything, just sat down and stared.

Rebecca smiled, but something about the way he was acting made her uneasy.

“I appreciate the company. It’s hard being alone for so long.”

Bill waited.

He watched and he waited.

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Yay! My blog is back!

Update- Tommy and Brittany are leading the votes with Mike and Jade close behind and Jack and Stephanie pulling up the rear.

Don’t forget- if you want to be entered into the drawing, please respond to this post or comment on the poll so I have your email. You can also email me your response to be entered. Winners will be picked on Thursday.

Thanks!

Hi everyone!
After a lot of tears and way too much stress, my blog has returned and the posts I thought were gone forever have been recovered. I am so thankful to everyone who helped and I am ready to move on!

Choices comes out on September 22, but I want to give away 2 signed paperbacks before you can buy them. All you need to do is answer the following question and I will pick from the entries on Thursday Sept 14.

You can comment on this post or email me at rnadler103@aol.com to let me know you responded. Don’t forget to preorder your copy today!

 

Question…


 

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Vote still open!

So far, the results have Julie in the lead and Elizabeth in 2nd. I’m curious about what time in Julie’s life you are interested in?
Please don’t forget to vote for your favorite. Also- I will be hosting a giveaway for a signed copy of Choices before you can buy it. Details and a new post coming soon!

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Backstory… a spinoff?

I have been thinking about writing a short novella as a supplement to the series. Kind of a stand alone about a character. It could be one of the main characters at a time in their lives when we didn’t see them or a minor character at a time in their life you want to know more about. I am curious about who you want to know more about and if you have any particular time period. Like Jade in her teens or Liz during flight school. Maybe Brittany during med school. I’m open to anything, even exploring the villains. It could even be about characters we never really met like Nate or David and Juliana. I’ll set up a poll after I’ve gotten a few responses. Reply here or to my email rnadler103@aol.com

Thanks! If response is good, I’m open to writing more than one.

A little preview

A little fun from the upcoming book, “Choices”

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“So you had fun?” Tommy asked Naomi after she got home.

“Yeah, Mr. Jason is nice and he doesn’t seem to be really snobby or anything.”

“He is a pretty nice guy,” Brittany smiled as she handed Tommy some coffee. “I didn’t know they were going to be there.”

“Me either,” Naomi said and blushed.

“What is it?” Tommy asked.

“Nothing.”

“Bryan was there too I take it?” Brittany asked with a smile.

“Yeah,” she said.

Tommy frowned.

“I don’t like that. You need to tell us when you’re with him.”

“But we were with Uncle E. Besides, he’s stricter than you guys are.”

“Is that right?” Tommy asked. “Good.”

She rolled her eyes and Brittany laughed.

“So I wanted to talk to you both about something,” she said.

Naomi looked at Tommy.

“What’s going on? Is everything okay?”

“Yeah,” she smiled. “But this is important.”

“What is it?” Tommy asked her.

“You know how I have had Rhonda as a patient recently, and she gave birth before you were hurt.”

“She did? I don’t remember that,” Tommy said.

“She did. They have a healthy little boy and his name is Craig.”

“That’s awesome,” he said.

“Yes, so she had talked to me before about the puppies they had.”

Both Naomi and Tommy smiled.

“Do you want to get a dog?” he asked.

“Well the puppies were all sold, but she has one dog who wasn’t sold from the litter before. He is a year old and he has some issues, so he won’t be used as a breeder. She is thinking about putting him down.”

“Why? What kind of issues?” Naomi asked.

“He has juvenile onset diabetes, which in dogs is usually an indication of underlying growth issues. He also has some behavior issues.”

Tommy raised his eyebrows and Naomi grinned.

“I want him.”

“It’s not that simple,” Brittany said. “He needs daily shots and we will have to monitor his glucose. He will need a special diet and a lot of love and care.”

“So do I,” Naomi smiled.

Tommy looked at his wife.

“What kind of behavior issues?”

“He doesn’t like anyone.”

He smiled.

“Either do we. When can he come home?”

She laughed.

“Tomorrow. I told her I needed to make sure you both were ready, and it will be on a trial basis to make sure he likes us. He is Tramp’s great nephew.”

“That’s so cool. Does he have a name?” Naomi asked.

Brittany blushed.

“Mr. Peepers.”

They were quiet.

“If he’s only a year, we can change it,” Tommy said.

“Totally,” Brittany agreed.

“Maybe that’s why he doesn’t like them,” Naomi said.

“Yeah, not a fan,” Brittany agreed.  “So we’re all good with this? You’re ready for a new dog?” she asked.

Tommy smiled and Naomi nodded.

“We need him. We aren’t complete without a dog. And I think maybe he needs us, too.”

“I agree.”

“We need to get stuff. I’ll make a list,” Naomi said.

“Okay. Should we use any of Tramp’s things?” Tommy asked.

“No. He is new to our house and I don’t want him to feel like we’re trying to make him like Tramp. He deserves his own things.”

“Okay,” Tommy said. “I think you’re right.”

They all helped make the list and Brittany was happy they were on board.

Her husband and daughter would need this.

She exhaled and smiled when they looked at her.

This was right.
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